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ASK JACQUE: Declining an Invitation

I have my cousin’s wedding this weekend, and I have lots of family in town from far away. My posts might be shorter this week, so I can enjoy more of their company 😍.

Love you ladies!

Jacque 

Worried About My Weight

One of my family friends is getting married soon, and although I really want to see everyone, I’m so uncomfortable with my post baby weight that I don’t want anyone to see me. What do I do? With the wedding shower, bachelorette invite, and actual wedding coming up, there will just be too many opportunities for me to compare my body to everyone else’s and feel badly about myself. How do I decline graciously? – Self-Conscious Mommy

Dear Self-Conscious Mommy,

I have definitely been here! In fact, it can be a consistent struggle for me to accept my post-baby body enough to enjoy activities that also make me uncomfortable. I once heard someone say, “I may not 100% like how I look, but I 100% refuse to miss out.” I think it might be beneficial to consider if attending these social functions might provide opportunities for growth, since you would be pursuing your desire to see your friends, despite your feelings of discomfort. However, it is really important to honor where you are at. If putting yourself in an uncomfortable situation seems too stressful, then it might not be the right time. You have to choose what is best for you. If you are struggling with how to word your decline, you could claim being unavailable, or you could consider telling the truth. I think every woman can understand and empathize with being uncomfortable with her weight. Do what works for you and makes you feel good about yourself.

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